When you truly love someone

…being faithful should be easy.  

But, as we’ve recently seen regarding the scandalous Ashley Madison story.  In today’s absence of moral conscience, many men and women are taking to the Internet to fulfill daring fantasies through the anonymity of the online world of mystery, romance, and casual sex.  

Faithful spouses are being duped by their partners who hide shamelessly behind a screenname…not caring that what they’re actually doing will eventually have dire consequences.  

If you are one of those spouses whose been fooled by your partner. Leave.  

Being faithful is easy.  And there is someone out there who will agree.  

Happy Father’s Day Dad

Mom and dad. Dad wrote those words on there. They were married almost 45 years before he passed. Happy Father’s Day dad. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about you.  

And that my dear friends….

is marriage in a nutshell:
  

Letting go……..

There is a difference between saying goodbye and letting go. Goodbye is not permanent. You can meet years later as old friends and share what happened in your life. You can smile and laugh about all the nonsense that you both went through. However, letting go is being okay with never seeing this person ever again…being okay with never knowing how their life turned out…being okay with fifty or more years of silence… being okay with running into that person at a grocery store and having them not acknowledge your presence. This is the part of life that doesn’t sit well with me and never will. It tears my heart in pieces, robs me of gratitude, drains me of anything positive and eats at the faith that holds on. It goes against kindness.

Shannon L. Alder

Silence is Golden

for a reason…..



Reconnecting

Writing isn’t always easy.  Either you feel it or you don’t. And when you’ve suffered from writer’s block (like I have, for years) you don’t.

What does it take to become inspired?

Well, for me it takes really digging deep within myself, sorting out any negative feelings and trying to come up with a way to take those feelings and pen some sort of outlet.

I have read about authors whose brilliance was discovered from some type of catalyst.

When I was a teen it was easy to dig deep and find those feelings. Today, not so much. And when your soul feels life too much….immersed in doubt and in pain…..the pen is either silenced or screams for release.

Learning to let go

Perhaps because we are all fond of our memories and detest change, I’ve always tried to figure out why it is so hard to let go? Let go of old habits, past hurts, fading fond memories? Why is it so difficult to demolish these old bridges and move forward???

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Perhaps we hold on to illusions of what we think is “right.”  We can’t move forward if we are stuck in a misconception of reality.  And what causes us to distort our perceived perception of truth.

The older we get the more difficult it becomes to welcome change. I see it at work, I see it with my mom and definitely I saw this with dad.

“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.”
― C. JoyBell C.

What baffles the mind is why people hold on to things which create and cause only pain?

Pitching an idea

My wonderful husband gifted me Microsoft Word for my birthday.  For someone like myself, who usually is quite practical, I plan on using my program to its fullest.  I have a manuscript which I plan on submitting to various publishing houses.

Am PRAYING it catches someone’s eye.  I really don’t want an agent, only because they do receive a part of your earnings. However, as a relatively novice in the literary world I know I may have to seek out their services.

Writing has always been not just a creative outlet but blissful therapy as well.  As a teen I would escape the confines of my surroundings and (at times) volatile environment) by drumming up a whole new world free from the constraints of teen angst or family problems.  Writing saved me.

And I haven’t quite given up on my storyline. I strongly feel (and yes I already know most new writers feel the same) about my manuscript.  Sometimes it’s who you know (like everywhere else) and right timing. Perhaps my story will be picked up and if not I will continue submitting until I find someone who believes in it as much as I do. 🙂

WHY are interviews so stressful (and scary?)

There are some individuals out there who are able to breeze through these things and not even break a sweat.

Myself? Ha….different story. Though I may look calm and composed on the outside inside my stomach is in knots.

Though am lucky I don’t have to sing for my supper, I would eventually like to progress up the government career ladder. My retirement will be here before you know it (well…have about a decade to go)…but with the federal government we employees receive 1% of our base pay for each year of federal service. Why it behooves those of us who served on active duty to buy back our time.

Ronnie Ann’s article in Work Coach Cafe, pinpoints some very real concerns most of us have regarding the process:

Why do you get so nervous during job interviews?

• It’s scary and uncomfortable being judged.
• It’s scary and uncomfortable being the focus and having to come up with good answers for whatever they ask you.
• You don’t know what they’re going to ask.
• You don’t know for sure if what you say is a good answer.
• You don’t like talking about yourself.
• You don’t feel comfortable “selling” yourself.
• You don’t interview every day and so you aren’t sure you know how to do it well.
• You really need a job.
• You worry that if you don’t get this job there may not be another chance any time soon.
• You worry that you’ll sound stupid.
• You worry there’s something about you or your background they’ll hate.
• You have no idea exactly what they’re looking for.
• You hate the idea of being rejected based on just one short meeting.
• You think you have to be more than you are.

(source)

As Ann states, it helps to understand the job hiring process, believing in yourself (confidence goes a long way….just don’t be cocky), and develop any weak areas that need further tweaking.

A sad day in the St. Louis area

With the death of 18 year old Michael Brown many questions are being raised here in St. Louis and unfortunately violence as well.  Looting and rioting have no place within a civilized society. If such violence was deemed ok then it means anarchy will ensue. Do we want our country ending up like those in the Middle East which some are in a Civil War? Yes, something needs to be done to establish better community relations between law enforcement and the people living in that district but destroying businesses is plain wrong. WRONG. Those businesses are the livelihoods of hard working Americans. Some are small businesses and the looting can very well destroy them. I really don’t think insurance covers acts of civil disobedience. As soldiers we defend the right of free speech but with that being said, there are laws in place to arrest people who incite hatred which leads to a mob mentality. If this mess isn’t resolved soon I can easily see martial law being put into effect.

 

“If we cannot end now our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity. For, in the final analysis, our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this small planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children’s future. And we are all mortal.

[Commencement Address at American University, June 10 1963]”
― John F. Kennedy