The google definition of a soul-mate is as follows:
Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love …
An interesting historical concept can be found in the terms of reincarnation by Skye Thomas:
Many theories exist as to what is a soulmate. The original roots of the concept go back to a belief in reincarnation. A soulmate is someone that you have encountered in many different life times and have loved many times. That’s why the first time you meet them in this lifetime you feel as if you have known them forever before you even knew their name. There is a mystical deja vue energy right from the start. Can you have more then one soulmate during your lifetime? Originally, the answer was no. As the definition of the word soulmate has changed, so has that answer. People’s religious and spiritual beliefs deeply affects how they view the concept of soulmates.
First let me give a very basic explanation of reincarnation so that within that context the various theories as to what a soulmate is and how many you can have in one lifetime will make more sense. The core belief regarding reincarnation is that the creator castes the souls down onto the planet to live out a number of lifetimes until a bunch of predetermined lessons have been learned. Once those souls have finished learning all of their lessons, then they no longer have to come back as humans and can move on to another level where they become guardian angels or spirit guides over those who are still living out their life lessons. There are as many different variations on this concept as there are religions.
It was originally believed that soulmates are created when the creator takes a soul and splits it into two as it is caste into human form. Each half is supposed to learn the life lessons at their own pace. When the two halves sometimes cross paths during various lifetimes, they have a cosmic powerful bond because they really are of the same soul. They complete each other. They are often very much alike, and the intensity of the connection is too much for a mere human with emotions and issues to handle, so they painfully end up parting ways. When they both finish their lessons, they are both reunited in heaven and come together as a beautiful representation of love and unity. This is also known as your twin flame. Only one person is the other half of your soul.
Ritu Khanna also discusses the realm of soul-mates by listing Reiki master Shalini Loganey’s list of finding such fulfillment:
-The first step is to be happy with yourself. Do not consider that you are in a needy position.
–Look for inspiration from others who are happy, those who appear as ‘made for each other’ couples.
I used to think (days gone by) that there was just one special man for me and am sure others who fell for this can relate.
Honestly, I think that when you are young and naive yes…you will tend to think that there is such a thing as a soul-mate but in reality this is not the case.
For the average person there may be one of several soul-mates that have touched our lives, crossed our paths, embraced our hearts.
But as far as there only being 1 person out of what…billions as being specially picked…am I being too cynical or just real?