You are no longer responsible for yourself. You are part of a unit which you agreed upon (taking a solemn oath or vow.)
Sadly, I think many Americans forgo these promises and continue working independently from the unit.
Am not saying you are your spouse’s keeper.
God no! 😦
What I am saying is that each and every adult out there, who is in a serious and committed relationship, take personal responsibility over themselves, their actions.
With that being said, when those of us, like myself, who’ve been more single than attached, we can sometimes forget that there is another person in the equation. Their happiness, their self-worth becomes entangled with the every-day-to-day doldrums of simply existing.
Though my parents’ marriage was by no means perfect, they stuck together through it all. And, this is the template I go by.
Mom and dad took their vows quite literally, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health.
That’s why I can’t seem to understand how people easily discard the sacred vows they went into freely…eyes wide open.
I’ve been part of team my entire adult life. The military taught me about self-sacrifice for the betterment of the whole. In marriage, we will make sacrifices for our spouses, as long as these acts are not taken for granted.
I see too many couples who settle into a comfortable and habitual day to day married life. The wants of the one outweigh the needs of the two.
When this happens communication is the key. Yes, I’ve beaten up this topic to death on this blog but wow….when it comes to such a sacred institution as marriage, when you love someone……when you truly love them….sacrifices will be made if not today…then tomorrow. And if you feel like your voice isn’t being heard, speak up…being married means being part of a team.
Don’t be that silent partner.