Am pretty psyched about developing my new wardrobe. Am seeking to present a more professional (and at times “fun”) side of myself.
I tend to come off as unapproachable if am not smiling. This has been a problem since I can remember.
The curse of the introvert!
Shop therapy helps me at least (and probably a few of the ladies out there) deal with current stress. Yeah, I know it’s not the panacea cure-all but it does help. KNOWING that I am trying to better myself professionally and slowly changing my habitual ways will get me off my duff and hopefully into a better mindset.
According to the following article: Retail Therapy, 1 in 3 stressed Americans shop when stressed. Guess am included in that number. (Uh-oh):
Forget meditation and yoga: For many stressed-out Americans, the best remedy for a stressful day at work or the sting of a painful breakup is the smell of brand-new clothing, the feel of a silk dress and the sound of a credit card being swiped. If you turn to retail therapy in times of anxiety, you’re not alone — according to a recent survey, nearly one in three recently stressed Americans (which accounts for 91 percent of the general population) shops to deal with stress.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the survey — an online poll of over 1,000 U.S. adults commissioned by the Huffington Post — found that women were twice as likely as men to use retail therapy as a way to cope with stress (40 percent vs. 19 percent). And in turn, men were more than twice as likely as women (34 percent vs. 16 percent) to say that they had never shopped out of stress and would never consider doing so in the future.
But gender aside, there is one trait many “stress-shoppers” have in common: They tend to seek distracting, temporary fixes to alleviate their stress. HuffPost’s survey found that those who shop to deal with anxiety (versus those who do not) were also…
- 46 percent more likely to exercise to cope with stress
- 86 percent more likely to eat to cope with stress
- 76 percent more likely to worry about their weight
In other words, the stress-shoppers are also “stress-eaters” and “stress-exercisers.” Those who used retail therapy tend toward the “flight” side of fight vs. flight, distancing themselves from the stress with an unrelated activity rather than facing it head-on. In contrast, the respondents who said they never shop to deal with stress were more likely to cope by finding the root of their anxiety and confronting it.
And yet stress-shopping is still an appealing coping mechanism — and it helps that it’s super convenient. Many of us shop online using our iPads, laptops and even cell phones. “It was so easy to lose track of how much I was spending,” Darleen Meier, a self-described “Gilt addict,” told HuffPost Women in 2011. “At the high point, I was getting boxes delivered to my doorstep every single day of the week. It was time to stage an intervention.”
(read more here)
One of my favorite online shopping outlets is Zulily.
Of course, the best thing is to shop when NOT stressed, and when your pocketbook can handle it. If you are trying to create a new look, or update your wardrobe, do it a piece at a time and always ensure your most important bills that canNOT wait (mortgage, car note, insurance, utilities etc) are taken care of 1st. 😉