“Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation…It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.”
― Madeleine L’Engle, The Irrational Season
Indeed…loving someone takes immense risk of the heart….but once you accept all that comes with loving someone, your sense of freedom grows.
How many of us never felt more “freer” from the shackles of “singlehood” than when we fall in love…..
Love is not a possession but yes, a participation of like minds and hearts. Marriage is an uncertain journey filled with unexpected joys and sorrows. We take the chance with a stranger, get to know them, their little eccentricities and whatnot. We sift through that which we cannot accept (because yes…love is blind) and decide to call this person our own for yes, there is a little of our hearts which the other does posses….it is fragile, only hoping for the best.
Marriage is one of the greatest human risks we take, and we go into it willingly, for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer until death do us part.
Let us never forget that which brought our partners to us….and treasure those good times, learn from the bad. The risk of love. ah yes….the risk of love takes a lifetime to enjoy, to learn, and to appreciate.