I do not believe in these types of relationships and never will. I’ve seen far too many couples break up due to infidelity, loneliness, and resentment. This includes deployed individuals, and those whose jobs takes them far away.
Separations sucks. And unless the two of you agree to it in the beginning that there will be times (sometimes a lot of times when the two of you are not together) then the relationship will not survive. There will always be one person resenting the distance and another who of course will not.
Now, if it’s for a short period of time, couples should really try and work things out. However, if you end up stuck in something not of your choosing and said separation is long-term or repeated, the two of you need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart. Not everyone is made for this type of relationship. Doesn’t mean you are bad or they are, just means both of you want something different. And why fight it?
In the end if the two of you indeed deeply love each other then compromise is the key. Always remember…..If one individual constantly gives in to the demands of the other, then the marriage/partnership is doom to fail. If you or he/she is the giver, in the end both of you will end up with nothing and one an empty shell.
Absence is a sweet ache in the pit of your stomach….you anticipate their return….hoping that they feel the same, making the love that much sweeter. And hopefully, these absences will eventually be a thing of the past and the both of you can look towards the future together hand in hand.
“I found that I missed him the more he was absent from my life, and the more I missed him, the more I loved him.”
― Donna Lynn Hope, Willow