“In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic; a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts; an enabler rather than a reformer.”
― H. Norman Wright
One thing I’ve noticed about married couples is the fact most of them take each other for granted. Like a lot of marriages, the honeymoon period has a shelf life. We all can fall into a monotonous routine. Passionate kisses become a mere peck on the cheek, concern about one’s appearance is placed on the back burner. Steamy sex and unbridled passion goes into the toilet, and there’s always the dreaded weight gain.
Am not saying these things always happen to every single couple out there, but they do. Remember how excited you became when you were getting ready for a date? Dressing up, butterflies in stomach…whatever turned you on and made you want to see that person again are a distant memory….and now you’re lucky to get a dinner and a movie.
Now, am not saying all marriages end like this (and perhaps this is where affairs start, divorce…drifting apart etc) but putting your relationship last after your job, your friends, hobbies and yes even children at times, is a recipe for disaster. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to actively work at your marriage. Every day.
Doing little things for your spouse, even if it’s a text, post it note, whatever….goes a long way. Knowing that your spouse is fully committed to you and vice- versa is wonderful assurance to a continuance of a loving union.
Everyone has their personal shortcomings. Perfection shouldn’t be your main goal in creating matrimonial harmony. Instead, realize what an inspiration your partner is and fully invest in it and in yourself.