Trust is a sacred thing and something which should never be taken for granted or treated lightly. When we open ourselves up it means you will receive respect in return.. that the person will try not to disappoint, and that they will want to work even harder to ensure they will never do anything to betray you.
Trust is something we all hold sacred and once broken may never be regained. It will take a lot of effort on the other person to prove they are deserving. And if not, then it’s time to let go.
Love is scary and exhilarating at the same time. It can heal you or destroy you…depending on what you’re willing to accept and needing to let go.
And when that mirror is cracked, from lies and deceit….it’s time to let go.
Never try forcing someone into becoming something/someone you want if you cannot accept who and what they are when you first meet. If you cannot, it’s time to let go.
“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”
― Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island
Broken trust is liked a cracked mirror. The image is distorted and almost impossible to repair.
If a person has lied, has lived a life outside of what you consider the norm, what you are willing to accept…it’s time to let go. An initial mistake can be forgiven however when the same mistake is repeated…it’s time to let go:
“It was one thing to make a mistake; it was another thing to keep making it. I knew what happened when you let yourself get close to someone, when you started to believe they loved you: you’d be disappointed. Depend on someone, and you might as well admit you’re going to be crushed, because when you really needed them, they wouldn’t be there. Either that, or you’d confide in them and you added to their problems. All you ever really had was yourself, and that sort of sucked if you were less than reliable.”
― Jodi Picoult, Handle With Care