In good times and bad

“People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say, ‘I can work around that. I can make something out of it.’? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it’s always going to pretty and sparkly, but the crap underneath can ruin you.”
Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

Marriage takes courage (and loads of it!) Courage to reach out with your heart and trust that the other person will hold on to it close, you hope they will respect the love, freely given, with hopes they will cherish you ’til the end of your days. 

Real love means embracing the good and weathering the storm during the bad.

It takes a lot of patience to be married. Sometimes, and you know you’ve thought this, you want to nit pick at every minute detail that is wrong with your spouse.  You become suspicious of their activities when away.  And…unless they’ve done something quite damaging to breach that sacred trust, never doubt it.

God!! Loving someone is NOT easy….when you have to break free of WHO you are…WHAT you are and take on the elements of that other human being…the good…the bad…the scary parts…all of it you sometimes wonder what you gotten yourself into.  Then you think about how that person makes you feel. The love waiting for you each and every day.  Looking forward to moments alone…the joy and laughter.

Love is the pretty bow tied around everything else:

  • Trust
  • Respect
  • Commitment
  • Fidelity
  • Strength

Accepting your partner’s flaws shows a level of commitment which can at times test your patience, your feelings….give you doubts….but as long as the both of you are 100% committed to the marriage then anything is possible.  Anything…


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