Loyalty

Wendy

Wendy

How Dogs Got Their Name

Author Unknown

When God had made the earth and sky, the flowers and the trees.
He then made all the animals and all the birds and bees.

And then His work was finished, and not one was quite the same
He said I’ll walk this earth of mine and give each one a name.

And so he traveled land and sea, and everywhere He went
a little creature following him, until its strength was spent.

When all were named upon the Earth, and in the sky and sea,
A little creature said, Dear Lord, there’s not one left for me.

The Father smiled and softly said, I’ve left you to the end,
I’ve turned my own name back to front

and called you “Dog” my friend.

Trust

“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”
Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island

We enter into relationships attracted to the person we see, the person they are.  First impressions.

We hope this individual will fall in love with us as much as we have fallen in love with them.

That’s in a perfect world.

Instead, we are sometimes faced with a dilemma in which the person we thought our partner was/is instead a fanciful illusion.  Baby, what a quandary.

Life and love are not  easy. Mix the two together and you have a volatile mix.

“You see, you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too–even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie

No relationship is perfect. We are all faced with day-to-day issues testing our love, our trust.  When that happens we have to ask ourselves:  “In the end, is this worth it. Is all that pain worth the struggle? ”

Yes and no. Yes, if both of you work together to resolve whatever issues are plaguing the marriage or partnership. No, if one of you is either not willing or in denial as to where the relationship is heading.

When you come together as a unit, you come with baggage. ALL of us do.  Either it’s the way we were raised, previous relationship issues, financial problems, bringing in children (and though it’s not politically correct to group children in this way, they are in fact part of something else that can bring either great joy or hardship depending on where the both of you are at.)  You cannot close your eyes to these things. Whatever is brought in to the mix has to be discussed otherwise you’ll face heartache, resentment, or distrust down the road.

Never let love blind you, never let it consume you to the point you forget who you were before.  Your partner fell in love with you as you were, an individual, and vice versa.  When merging households you also bring in different belief systems (yes, because no two people are alike)….different backgrounds, values, mores, personalities…the list goes on and on.  And before you merge, those differences should be addressed.  Thinking that they’ll “right themselves” or “work themselves out” is a set up for failure.

Embrace the good in the other person, revel in their uniqueness.  Appreciate their flaws but at the same time do not let these flaws bog the both of you down and never ever let anything simmer which needs to be addressed.

Love is a privilege, unique to the human species.  Don’t take it for granted. Don’t think it will always be there.  When problems pile up and you don’t take care of them at that time, you could very well loose the person who you made a vow to…..never take your partner for granted.  It’s a recipe for disaster.

Love them, cherish them……

“Relationships are mysterious. We doubt the positive qualities in others, seldom the negative. You will say to your partner: do you really love me? Are you sure you love me? You will ask this a dozen times and drive the person nuts. But you never ask: are you really mad at me? Are you sure you’re angry? When someone is angry, you don’t doubt it for a moment. Yet the reverse should be true. We should doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive.”
Christopher Pike, Remember Me

BOREDOM IN A MARRIAGE

If you ever find yourself bored with your marriage you and your spouse need to sit together and figure out why you (or they) are not experiencing a sense of fulfillment.

motorcycle_largeWe all are familiar with the honeymoon period when you first meet someone and right after the wedding.  These flushed feelings can last a few months or even a couple of years but real life interferes and sometimes these feelings can dampen.  We can’t expect our love to be the same as it was when we first started dating (though we like to think so).  If it’s true…that those butterfly feelings continue then yes, it can happen but not always.  Love grows, it’s tested, and both of you will go through difficult times.
So, what causes us to fall into a rut?
You need to ask yourself a few of questions: 1.) Are you bored with your relationship 2.) Bored with being married? 3.) Bored with your partner? and finally 4.) Are you bored with life??
Look at marriage as a stable sense of security. The two of you chose one another for a reason.  And hopefully the both of you discussed important details to a long-lasting commitment PRIOR to saying your I do’s.
Everyone falls into a rut at some point, even with themselves.  But it’s up to you as an individual to pull yourself out and as a couple to work side by side through these bumps on the road.
Unfortunately marital bliss can fall into infidelity because one person may feel that the lack of luster is somehow all the other person’s fault.  What I have noticed through the years is that couples will “pick and choose” WHICH vows to adhere to…..something I could never understand growing up myself in a traditional marriage.  Mom and dad lasted almost 44 years and trust me, those vows were tested.  But they loved each other and they made it work for them.
I digress, however, when you decide to commit to a person through marriage, remember it won’t always be an easy path.  There will be obstacles thrown your way: hardships, illness, and yes even boredom.  Everyone can get stuck in a rut. It’s up to you to inject some excitement back into the relationship. Am sure your partner will be more than willing to jump on board.  🙂

1395273_10202136938045396_506576641_nLeaving the city and rat race behind was something I sorely needed this week.  Hard work week, dealing with the government shut down, lost a reserve paycheck due to the Capital Hill fiasco, coming out to the country with my hubby, Mr. H. was just what the doctor ordered.

 

Growing up in Indiana I was darn lucky to have a pretty decent childhood.  Almost Norman Rockwell in some ways.  I miss living in the country, no sirens, barely any crime, the people there, at least to me, are far more friendlier.  Here in the city everyone and everything is in a rush.  Living in St. Louis you are dealing with crime, poverty, and a population density I never got used to, (especially with traffic.)

Being out there with the hubby, just he and I was every wife’s dream.  We had each other and that was heaven.  Maybe because we’re technically still newlyweds we are still pretty much caught up in each other.  All spouses should be, for the entire marriage.  Keep that love alive.  🙂
All partners should take a trip out to someplace holding little distractions except with each other and simply let the world slip away and make great memories.  ❤

Dealing with the government shutdown

As a federal employee, Army Reservist, and American, these are trying times.  I’ve already lost money because of this B.S. and am at the end of my tether. This posting is a justified rant.

I just love how Congress is trying to pretend they’re heroes; also, not to mention this President shouldn’t be let off lightly, and now we are dealing with the budget crisis…are we going to end up defaulting on our debt not just causing a national crisis but international as well?????

I really do not like discussing politics here in this venue but the stalemate has me more than a just a little upset and worried (understatement).  This mess didn’t happen overnight. And, it also didn’t happen on the watch of any one president, administration or majority. Both sides already spent the money. Not just the Democrats or the Republicans – each party has been contributing to our debt for years.  They have approved spending our hard earn tax $$$$ on whatever cause of the moment they each have had.

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In addition, we Americans should also become more fiscally responsible.  A great lot of us do mirror our government. If you think about how much we spend in our own households compared to what we make in our paychecks we are as much to blame. Also, when you go out and vote for a political candidate MAKE SURE you understand your party’s platform before making a blanket move to vote based on party alone. Become educated and quit living in a bubble!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’M GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE (VIVIR MI VIDA) TRANSLATION

Live My Life

I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
[I’m gonna] live my life, la, la, la, la
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna enjoy
live my life, la, la, la, la

Sometimes rain comes
to clean wounds
Sometimes just a drop
can overcome the drought

And why cry, for what?
If it hurts bad, forget it
And why suffer, for what?
If life is like this, you must live it

I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
live my life, la, la, la, la
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna enjoy
live my life, la, la, la, la

I’m gonna live in the moment
to understand the fate
I’m gonna listen in silence
to find the way

And why cry, for what?
If it hurts bad, forget it
And why suffer, for what?
If it hurts bad, forget it

I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
live my life, la, la, la, la
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna enjoy
live my life, la, la, la, la

 

My people!

I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
Why mourn? Why suffer?
Start dreaming, laughing
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
Feel and dance and enjoy,
you only live once
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
Live, always keep moving forward
Don’t look back

My people, you only live once

I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna dance
live my life, la, la, la, la
I’m gonna laugh, I’m gonna enjoy
live my life, la, la, la, la