Don’t get lazy with your love

You know how it goes…you marry, the days blur into each other…and the appreciation you once had with each other turns into well….erodes as you both fall into ruts, resentments, financial woes, and distrust.

Every single relationship we have, whether it’s with your parents, siblings, best friend or your spouse, is going to get hit pretty hard with life’s messes.  Just don’t get lazy with your love.

Marriage takes a lot of work, emotional and psychological.  One of you may be at a different place in life whether that be with being the primary caretaker of the children, health issues, financial problems, to unemployment, or (stick in your current emotional upheaval here)….we can all fall out of sync with our partner..just don’t fall out of love.  You’re going to have to work hard, really hard to get to where the both of you envision the relationship to reach.  Just don’t get lazy with your love.

Always think about what it felt like when you first met, fell in love, the first kiss…those fervent promises full of dreams…..

Try to see the best in each other…think before you react and remember harsh words put out there are very difficult to get back.  Remember that words hurt just as much as a wound.  The only difference is the cut is unseen.

Never stop growing together….learn what makes the other happy….what their strengths and weaknesses are.  We all make mistakes and when we do it helps to be there in comfort than to simply point out the bad.  Negativity is definitely not a motivational tool.

All this takes time…doesn’t happen overnight and why I say marriage takes work.  Nothing in this life is simply going to fall into place.  Our actions will dictate what choices we eventually make.

Don’t let past mistakes either from previous relationships or from the current one stop both of you from moving forward.

I would say that the surest measure of a man’s or a woman’s maturity is the harmony, style, joy, and dignity he creates in his marriage, and the pleasure and inspiration he provides for his spouse  Benjamin Spock