Am still a newly wed. My husband returned to his overseas duty a week after we married. One of the most difficult things I’ve had to do was to say goodbye again, but this time to my husband….at the airport.
In this day and age of avant-guard technology it’s quite easy to stay in touch with simply a click of the button. SKYPE, Facebook, cellphones, phone cards, UPS, USPS, Fed Ex…you name it there’s no reason not to be able to keep in touch, send care packages at the speed of light.
Doesn’t mean we still don’t hurt inside.
Dealing with a deployed spouse means finding strength you may have never thought you even had. It means dealing with the day to day problems head on, chin up while keeping the home fire burning. It means many lonely nights, an empty bed, an empty chair at the dinner table…it means spending holidays without him/her, spending birthdays apart, anniversaries…..oh trust me it’s hard.
So what do you do? Throw a pity party? That can only go so far. Sure I feel bad at times. I miss him. I miss him a lot but I also know what he is doing it’s for us, for our future. For security, for love, and it becomes an additional duty as his new wife to support him—-continue loving him.
To be there.
As I stated in a previous post, it’s best to keep busy. If you work, GREAT! Being able to get out of the house, forced to wake up each day and earn that paycheck means obsessing less about your spouse being gone.
And if you don’t work then find something that motivates you, gets you to drag yourself out of bed in the morning so you don’t have to deal with the absence.
“Love is more than about distance, it’s about emotions.”
― Yannick Heywang