18 years….


I read a past September’s issue from the Daily News which stated that 76% of Americans who marry do so only once and the marriage typically lasts about 18 years (enough to raise a child).

I found THAT statistic interesting….do Americans marry thinking all their problems will be ressolved in the time it takes for a sitcom to churn out it’s latest reel?

Speaking of statistics check out what the Wiki has regarding “the average Joe“:

A statement that can be made, however, is that most Americans will marry at least once in their lifetime with the first marriage most commonly ending in divorce.  (What a daunting statistic).

Currently more than half (52.3%) of US households are comprised of married couples.  This is a a dramatic decrease from the 1970’s when the number was over 70%.  (All within my lifetime).  Current trends show that people (like me) are marrying later in life and less often than their former counterparts with an even higher divorce rate.  (Why is that? Perhaps because we are set in our ways, afraid or too stubborn to change or gasp…..compromise?)

Americans are also remarrying at a higher rate. In 1990, 40% of all marriages are remarriages. All together one can conclude that while there is no prevalent average household arrangement, most Americans (the average Joe) will get married and divorced once with a considerable number of American re-marrying at least once.

You can draw your own conclusion. Myself, I chose to marry late because I really wasn’t sure if this was something I wanted. As I became older marriage was more of a pipe dream, not something I was really setting my sights upon.  In fact, I had given up and was content to simply date.

However, as you all well know I recently married and this is only because the Mr. fit my ideal and he was quite persistent.  😉  (love you honey)…..in the end you have to do what feels right for you.  With that said, if you do choose to walk down the matrimonial path you really need to weigh your options as far as where do you see yourself 30 years down the road with this person (not 18)….when you make such a sacred commitment it should be for life…not for what feels right for you right now.

Marriage is not easy, no relationship is but when you choose your life partner your vows should be engrained in every aspect of your relationship.  Period.

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