Spoke to a friend of mine today whose boyfriend is still keeping contact with an ex-girlfriend. He is in the military and at times is away for training, deployment, whatever. She overheard him talking to this woman the other day and came to me for advice.
I have heard from both sides (men and women) lamenting as to how their partner still carries feelings for their ex. If that’s the case why the hell are you in another relationship? Seems childish to me and actually quite selfish to continue communications with someone who could very well jeopardize your current relationship.
Of course I see no problem with it if you absolutely do not have feelings for this person and they certainly do not. You can continue loving someone but know it’s best to discontinue all communications. If that person still carries a torch for you then what in the world are you doing keeping the lines open? Out of respect for your partner why dig up the past?
I am of the adage that of let sleeping dogs lie. Period.
Sure it’s all about trust but at the same time if you left this person then it means he or she was toxic to you and most certainly will create a wedge between you and your S.O.