“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss
Dr. Seuss was a wise man when it came to understanding relationships and looking at the bigger picture. If you are caught up in a quagmire of self-doubt and the relationship you are in is not working you have to take a step back and think about if it’s best to let go.
Not everyone can do this, not everyone has the strength to examine what is going on for what it is. We all think maybe next time will be better…maybe I can salvage “us,”…. myself, instead of simply realizing the ride is broken and it’s time to get off.
We all want that fantasy tale of happily ever after but sometimes…sometimes it’s simply not meant to be. Remembering the good times is healthy but I would also advise you need to take a step back and see where your life is heading. Is it with this person or is it time to move on? Are the tears outshining the smiles?
What would happen if you did say goodbye?
Would you be able to survive and my answer is yes…..you will. It’ll be quite difficult at first (especially if your heart is still consumed by this person) but you have to realize at some point that it’s unhealthy to continue….that you may end up hating this person in the end because of their actions or inactions….and it’s hard, so hard….realize that you cannot control their actions but you can control your own.
Keep in mind that you are protecting your self-worth your own unique identity.
Remember you cannot force someone to love you or to commit to marriage. You can only protect yourself, give what you came to give…knowing this person crossed your life’s path for a reason. And know that you can love again.