Most people want/crave unconditional love and I really don’t think it exists outside of the realm of parenthood. (Though I have seen it on rare occassion with some of my family’s older marriages, one’s that I call “old-school”.) Children tend to adore their parents and will put up with quite a lot, same goes for what parents will do for their kids.
Look at today’s divorce statistics or the dating scene….people profess love yet their actions betray their so-called “devotion.”
How many of you out there will fake it in order to keep the relationship going?
You swallow your words, your pride thinking that if you try to play the good girl/guy act, that nothing bothers you your partner will stay, will love you more.
But people…that isn’t real.
And how can you base a relationship on lies?
The website Real Love states:
Unconditional love—true love—is so different from the kind of love most of us have known all our lives that it deserves both a name—Real Love—and definition of its own: Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. It’s also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. It is not Real Love when other people like us for doing what they want. Under those conditions we’re just paying for love again. We can be certain that we’re receiving Real Love only when we make foolish mistakes, when we fail to do what other people want, and even when we get in their way, but they don’t feel disappointed or irritated at us. That is Real Love (true unconditional love), and that love alone has the power to heal all wounds, bind people together, and create relationships quite beyond our present capacity to imagine.
Keep it real, keep it simple. If you have to become someone else in order to get this person to love you, honey it isn’t love. And God forbid if the two of you argue…who’s going to win?
Real love means being able to communicate, to not be afraid to pose the hard questions. Real love means being there for your partner when things are tough (because trust me, it will happen)….and of course enjoying those times together which makes being in love so very worthwhile.