“Dating” your spouse

Not a novel idea but appears to me this relationship problem has become a “non-issue” (I say this only because a lot of couples seem to “forget” to explore the possibilities). They take their spouse for granted or are so tired from the day-to-day “drudgery” of work, kids, chores, fighting…(you get the picture) that even marriage itself seems to become a four letter dirty word.

My sister and her husband take the time to date. They will drive to a hotel and spend a weekend together, take trips together and keep their love alive.

Everyone can get into this slump, even long-term committed couples who are not married.  It can happen with any relationship.  But it takes some inventiveness and energy to keep the marriage alive. Marriage IS work.  People seem to be afraid of that but why shy away from a positive change for the better???    

Always remember why the two of you fell in love in the first place.  Go somewhere you know the both of you would enjoy-do something nice for your spouse…break the rut.

This website discussed the top ten reasons why you should date your spouse. I listed the top 5:

Top Ten Reasons to Date Your Spouse Frequently!

Coaching Tips for Your Marriage

1. Marriage Relationships are Dynamic.
They are alive and always changing. They need to be fed and stimulated to stay alive.

2. There is always something new about your spouse.
Dating is a good way to create a safe environment. Your spouse is more likely to let you know “what’s new!”

3. Invest in the future.
Just like a savings account–it is easier to add a little to an existing account and watch it grow than to start a new one from scratch. That’s because the interest grows exponentially over time.

4. You Got Married Because You Dated!
It only stands to reason that a good way to stay married is to keep dating.

5. Marriage can be Compared to a Set of Tires.
During the course of driving, there is always wear and tear. Dating serves to maintain alignment, balance and pressure. When done well, your marriage will last a lifetime.


One thought on ““Dating” your spouse

  1. I love this encouragement: “Always remember why the two of you fell in love in the first place.” How often we forget – life gets busy and we fail to make the most of what we’ve been given. This is why we started The Romantic Vineyard. It’s our way of helping marriages cultivate their own relationship in a way which produces lasting fruit. And after 32 years of marriage – we can honestly say the wine produced in our marriage has been worth it! Thanks for this excellent reminder!

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