Letting go of anger…

I would say this can be one of the most difficult feats of inner strength any human being can do. 

When you hold on to grudges or pent up frustrations letting go of them (because ahhhh they become as familiar as a dear dear friend)….can be a frightening and daunting task.

Letting go should be the choice…should be seen as liberating and not scary. 

Why should it be? 

Why hold on to such negative, poison? 

Is there an alternative?


I can never fathom individuals who hold on to anger like it was their long lost lover. 

I have seen people in my family and outside my inner circle grasp on to this darkness as if it were a life preserver.

Yes I have been guilty of the same. 

Letting go, even if by stages should be done because in the end the only person that will end up getting hurt is you.

Freeing yourself of this ill sentiment will give you a new perspective on life, how you see yourself, how you view others. 

The liberation of feelings, the sensation of knowing you are not anchored down by such prophetic dogma of guilt, resentment and other harboring thoughts of hopelessness is such a bright alternative that—–

I cannot think of any other way to live.



Sometimes they hit you like a ton of bricks. Out of nowhere you could be at work, home wherever and suddenly you crave this or that. (this or that being Chinese food for me). I was reading a blog and the lady was discussing Chinese food. 

Albeit Chinese food does not do me any good since I am suppose to stay away from spicy foods.  However I don’t see Chinese being all that spicey….maybe certain Indian dishes and ahhhh yes I love those also and yes now craving Indian.  God help me!

Why people crave:

(Scientific) Research on the connection between a person’s mood and the food he or she eats has reveled what many people have long believed, that eating a certain food can influence a person’s mood—at least temporarily. Research by Judith Wurtman, a professor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), has focused on how certain foods alter one’s mood by influencing the level of certain brain chemicals called neurotransmitters. While many other factors influence the level of these chemicals, such as hormones, heredity, drugs, and alcohol, three neurotransmitters—dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin—have been studied in relation to food, and this research has shown that neurotransmitters are produced in the brain from components of certain foods.


USA Today

Food cravings: In your head or tummy?  By Nanci Hellmich

According to John Foreyt, he stated that patients would pacify themselves when feeling bored or stressed with food.  Perhaps this is a reason we crave sweets when placed in these kinds of situations.

Every time they watch a movie, they crave popcorn. And when they drive by a Dunkin’ Donuts, they feel the need for a treat. Foreyt, director of the nutrition research clinic at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, helps people examine what’s causing the cravings – frequently it’s stress and tension – and then teaches them how to deal with them.

Giving in to urges and cravings for everything from chocolate to cheeseburgers is one of the toughest challenges for weight-conscious people.

And many people could overcome their cravings if they just took a 10-minute walk until the craving passed or learned how to indulge that urge within reason, say several top national weight-loss researchers.

Experts say there’s a difference between real hunger and cravings. Hunger is a biological need to eat something because your stomach is empty, says psychologist Thomas Wadden, director of the Weight and Eating Disorders Program at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.  If you come in the house hungry as a bear, almost any food you like will satisfy you, he says. (I find this to ring true)….


Personally if the craving doesn’t go away in a couple of days I will satisfy it.  Like the other day when I had McDonald’s.  After eating this delcious

bounty I felt fine and have not been to a fast food resturant in over a week. (Patting myself on the back now)…..




Freedom of speech also means being responsible

Yet another interesting dicussion on English Sabla:

A German Holocaust denier who regularly lavished praise on Adolf Hitler has been sentenced to five years in jail by a German court.
Ernst Zuendel was convicted of 14 counts of inciting racial hatred and for denying that the Nazis killed six million Jews during World War II.
He received the maximum sentence under German law which bans Holocaust denial.

Zuendel moved to Canada in 1958 but was judged a national security threat and deported back to Germany in 2005.

The 67-year-old once published a book called The Hitler We Loved and Why, and described the former Nazi leader as “a decent and very peaceful man”.

EU ban plan

During his trial in the western German city of Mannheim, he was accused of using “pseudo-scientific” methods to try to rewrite the accepted history of the Nazi Holocaust in 14 pieces of written work and internet publications.

Zuendel had denied the charges, asserting his right to free speech, and questioned the constitutionality of the laws being used against him.

Germany hopes to make Holocaust denial a crime across the EU as part of a package of laws it wants to introduce during its presidency of the bloc.

Berlin is also set to outline plans to ban Nazi symbols like the swastika, which, like denying the massacre of the Jews, is already outlawed in Germany.

However, correspondents says such moves may be seen as curtailing freedom of speech and could prove controversial in several member states.


In the end I look at tact, responsibility and having human compassion above all else.  Sometimes this world can be a very ugly place.  It is up to us to remind others that it isn’t.

 Source:  http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?t=53418

Excel in whatever you chose to do


I have always been a strong believer in giving 100% in your endeavors. 

I never wanted to do anything “half-assed” so to speak.  I don’t know if this is the proverbial “1st child syndrome” or what but since I was a kid I always felt like if I did something I had to do it right.

This thought process does at times contradict with my laid back personality.  But what I think got me through basic training and my time away from family was this concept of doing things right and give 100%.  What I found during my military training was that you had to have this mentality in order to survive.  People who failed were those who doubted themselves or felt like everything was “owed” to them.  Trust me, nobody owes you anything. 

You earn it. 

You earn it by working hard, doing your time in whatever field you choose to do it in and giving your best.  If anyone is owed anything I would say it is children who were not even given a decent start up in life.  Yeah, being a little preachy at the moment but it really gets to me when I hear people saying that they are “owed” this or that in life.  My question for them is: 

“What did you do to earn it?”

When people have the mentality that life owes them something they will not get very far and if they do more than likely it is gained through negative means.  Anyway, who wants to live life thinking they are always owed something?  When you earn your way you feel it, you strive to keep doing your best and you will, in the end, appreciate the efforts it took to get you where you are today.

Carpe Diem…seize the dayand do so with a vigor and zest that will get you to the top and will enable you to contribute back to society in a positive way.  Sieze your dreams, your desires and goals in a manner that bespeaks of your character, your strength.  For me that is something no one can take away.  You have those moments in time that are yours alone and you realize through the years that the blood sweat and tears that got you to where you are today were earned by you and no one else.

Age is relative

I always get a kick out of people’s reactions when I tell them my age.  They naturally assume (good for me) that I am younger than my natural years.  I always tell them it is a blessing in disguise. Something I try to tell my daughter who currently laments her looks.  She was carted a few months ago at Walmart for “looking” under the age of 12.  She was in the process of buying an Anime movie which had age restrictions (now what kind of cartoon would have THAT kind of restriction on it hmmmmmmm???).

Mind you at the time she was 18. So, off we went to the DMV to obtain a state ID. 

Now she whips it out whenever her age is in question like at the movies when it states no children under the age of 17 are admitted without an adult.

Sigh………those were the days. 

I was carted up until I was in my 30’s. 

My mother who will be 70 next year looks at least a decade younger.  The common denominator I think besides genetics with us gals is that none of us smoke and do not drink.

Or at least when I do drink it is very rarely. 

We all get plenty of rest (remember those siestas) and at least on mom’s side there is the positive factor of longevity.  My dear abuela who will be 88 this year looks to be in her 70’s.  I am thankful every day for the family I have and even though I will be approaching the big 4-0 I hope to do so with grace and style.